What does it mean to make HERstory?
Women’s History Month isn’t just about remembering the past—it’s about recognizing the impact we continue to make today. As women, we carry the wisdom, strength, and resilience of those who came before us. But how often do we stop and honor our own journey?
This month, I’m reflecting on what it truly means to own our stories, reclaim our power, and step boldly into our purpose.
For me, creating my journal has been an act of honoring women’s voices—including my own. Every page is designed to help women become the authors of their own transformation. Because history isn’t just made by famous names in textbooks—it’s shaped by everyday women who rise, who heal, who break cycles, and who dare to dream bigger.
Honoring Our Own Journey
It’s easy to celebrate the victories of others, but do we take time to recognize our own?
- What battles have you fought and won?
- What wisdom do you carry from your experiences?
- How are you making history in your own life?
This month, I encourage you to document your HERstory. Write down your wins, your lessons, your growth. If you’ve never journaled before, start with this simple prompt:
"What is one way I have overcome adversity and grown stronger?"
How We Can Make HERstory Together
Celebrating Women’s History Month isn’t just about looking back—it’s about actively shaping a better future. Here are three ways you can do that this month:
- Honor Yourself – Recognize how far you’ve come. Write down three things you’ve accomplished that make you proud.
- Celebrate Another Woman – Lift up the women in your life. Send a note of appreciation, share a book by a female author, or simply tell a friend how much she inspires you.
- Use Your Voice – Share your story. Whether it’s through journaling, speaking up in a meeting, or supporting a cause, your voice matters.
This is the essence of making HERstory. It’s about owning your power, embracing your growth, and creating a legacy that inspires others.
Are Your Relationships Helping You Grow or Holding You Back?
Relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or familial—are at the core of our human experience. They shape us, challenge us, and often reflect back the work we need to do within ourselves. Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same patterns with people, wondering why certain conflicts keep repeating? Or perhaps you feel like your relationships no longer align with the person you are becoming?
Over the years, I’ve experienced deep shifts in my relationships. Some have strengthened and evolved, while others have naturally faded or ended in painful yet necessary goodbyes. Through my own growth, I’ve learned that relationships thrive when we approach them with awareness, clarity, and intentionality—and that’s exactly what we’re diving into this month.
This blog will explore how Human Design, Attachment Styles, Communication Styles, Defined and Undefined Centers, the Happiness Scale, and Muscle Testing can help you navigate relationship changes and challenges. Let’s explore how to make sure the relationships in your life serve your highest good.
Understanding Relationship Dynamics Through Human Design
Human Design offers a blueprint of our energy, communication, and decision-making styles. When you understand your Human Design Relationship Chart, you gain insight into how you naturally express yourself, where you may feel conditioned by others, and how to foster deeper connections.
Some key areas to explore include:
- Defined vs. Undefined Centers – Our energy centers influence how we experience emotions, communication, and decision-making. For example, if you have an undefined emotional center, you may absorb and amplify the emotions of those around you, which can cause relationship challenges if you’re unaware of it.
- Your Authority & Decision-Making Style – Do you make decisions from gut instinct (Sacral Authority), from emotional clarity over time (Emotional Authority), or through intuitive knowing (Splenic Authority)? Recognizing your own and your partner’s decision-making process can eliminate frustration and misalignment.
💡 Practical Step: Get your Human Design Relationship Chart by looking up both your design and that of your partner, friend, or family member. Observe how your centers interact—do you amplify each other’s energy or create balance?
Attachment & Communication Styles: Why We Love the Way We Do
Understanding Attachment Styles can provide clarity on relationship struggles. The way we attach to others is often shaped by childhood experiences and past relationships:
- Secure Attachment – You feel comfortable with intimacy and independence.
- Anxious Attachment – You crave closeness but often fear abandonment.
- Avoidant Attachment – You value independence and may struggle with vulnerability.
- Disorganized Attachment – A mix of anxious and avoidant tendencies, often due to past trauma.
Similarly, Communication Styles impact how we express ourselves in relationships. Are you direct or indirect? Emotional or logical? Do you gravitate towards Passive, Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive-Aggressive communication? Recognizing your own patterns—and those of your loved ones—helps create a bridge for better understanding and more effective communication.
💡 Practical Step: Identify your Attachment & Communication Styles and have open conversations with your loved ones about how you best give and receive love and feedback.
Evaluating Relationship Health: The Happiness Scale & Muscle Testing
Not all relationships are meant to last forever. Some serve a season, a lesson, or a purpose. To evaluate whether a relationship is truly nourishing, I love using The Happiness Scale & Muscle Testing.
- The Happiness Scale: On a scale of 1-10, how does this relationship make you feel? If a relationship consistently scores below a 5, it may be time to re-evaluate.
- Muscle Testing: Your body holds the truth about your relationships. Try a simple sway test—stand still, close your eyes, and think about a specific person. If your body naturally leans forward, it’s a positive sign. If it leans backward, it may indicate resistance or misalignment.
💡 Practical Step: Take a few moments to assess a key relationship using the Happiness Scale and Muscle Testing. What insights do you gain?
Final Thoughts: Navigating Relationships with Grace
Relationship shifts can feel beautiful, heartbreaking, and everything in between. The key is to navigate them with awareness, authenticity, and alignment. By understanding Human Design, Attachment Styles, Communication Styles, Defined and Undefined Centers, the Happiness Scale, and Muscle Testing, you give yourself the tools to create fulfilling, balanced, and aligned relationships.
Which of these insights spoke to you the most? Drop a comment and let’s continue the conversation. 💛
***If you’d rather listen to this blog, read by Jalisa, check it out here on our YouTube channel.***
Hey Golden Child!
Happy New Year! Are you as excited about 2025 as I am?
As the calendar flips to January, have you found yourself declaring, "New year, new me"? It's a common refrain, but how often do those words translate into lasting change? What if this year, instead of chasing perfection, you embraced transformation? How would your life look if you started 2025 not just with resolutions but with a roadmap grounded in awareness, action, and accountability?
These are the questions I wrestled with when I set out to create a planner that could support real, tangible change. I’ve been through seasons of striving without clarity and chasing goals that weren’t rooted in my authentic self. What I’ve learned is this: true growth doesn’t come from wishful thinking or lofty plans. It starts with intentionality and the willingness to dig deep, confront old patterns, and commit to daily steps forward.
This month, I want to share how you can step into a better you in 2025 by focusing on five foundational principles: Awareness, Addressing Limiting Beliefs, Accepting Accountability, Crafting Action Plans, and Applying Atomic Habits.
1. Awareness: The Foundation of Growth
Everything begins with self-awareness. Where are you right now, and where do you want to go?
Ask yourself:
Ask yourself:
- What patterns, habits, or beliefs are holding me back?
- What do I want more of in my life this year?
When I first started my own journey, I had to face hard truths. It wasn’t easy to admit that some of the chaos in my life was self-created or that I was holding onto beliefs about myself that weren’t true. But becoming aware of those things gave me the clarity to make meaningful changes.
Practical Tip: Start a daily reflection practice. At the end of each day, write down one thing you did well and one thing you’d like to improve. Awareness grows when we pause to reflect.
2. Addressing Limiting Beliefs
Have you ever heard that little voice in your head saying, “You’re not good enough,” “You’ll never succeed,” or “You can’t change”? Those are limiting beliefs, and they can sabotage your progress before you even begin.
For years, I let limiting beliefs run my life. But I’ve learned to challenge them with truth and shift them energetically in an instant. When you identify the root of these beliefs, you can replace them with empowering ones.
Practical Tip: Write down a limiting belief you’ve been carrying, then ask yourself, “Is this absolutely true?” Replace it with a new affirmation that aligns with your vision. For example, “I’m not smart enough” becomes “I have everything I need to learn and grow.” Check out “Eliminating Limiting Beliefs W/Ease” on our YouTube to learn more about the energetic work I do around this.
3. Accepting Accountability
Accountability is a game-changer. When I decided to take responsibility for my actions, my mindset shifted. It’s not about blame—it’s about empowerment. Accountability allows you to own your journey and your results.
Practical Tip: Partner with an accountability buddy or join a supportive community. Share your goals and check in regularly. It’s harder to quit when someone else is rooting for you. We have Co-Working & Accountability Sessions weekly on our YouTube and within our communities The Healed Money Movement and She’s Ready Society.
4. Creating Action Plans
Big dreams need clear steps. It’s one thing to say, “I want to improve my health,” and another to break it down into actionable goals like drinking more water, exercising three times a week, and meal prepping on Sundays.
When I started using action plans, I stopped feeling overwhelmed and started seeing results. Planning gives you direction and keeps you focused.
Practical Tip: Break your goals into quarterly, monthly, and weekly steps. Ask yourself, “What’s one small thing I can do today to move closer to my goal?”
5. Applying Atomic Habits
Have you heard of Atomic Habits by James Clear? It’s a life-changing approach to habit formation that focuses on small, consistent changes. This book taught me that it’s not the grand gestures but the tiny, daily habits that create lasting transformation.
For example, instead of setting a huge goal to meditate for 30 minutes daily, I started with just 2 minutes. That small habit grew over time, and now meditation is a natural part of my life.
Practical Tip: Choose one habit you want to build. Start small—really small—and focus on doing it consistently. Remember, habits compound over time.
This Year, It’s Your Turn
As you step into 2025, I want to encourage you: You have everything you need to become a better version of yourself. It’s not about perfection. It’s about progress.
Take time to reflect on where you are and where you want to go. Address the beliefs that are holding you back. Own your journey with accountability. Create a plan that excites you. And most importantly, start small and stay consistent.
This isn’t just another January blog post. This is an invitation to partner with yourself and God in becoming who you’re meant to be.
So, what will your story be this year? What action will you take today to step into your vision?
Here’s to a year of growth, transformation, and abundance. You’ve got this, Golden Child!
Join us over on our YouTube Channel and/or our Meetup Group The Mental Wealth Social to continue this conversation on “New Year, Better You” all month long!
See you there!
Have you ever felt like you’re walking through life without a clear direction? Or perhaps you’ve had a moment where you realized you’ve been working hard but still feel uncertain about where you’re headed?
As we approach 2025, it's the perfect time to assess where we are, where we want to be, and how we can get there with clarity and vision. For me, this has been a time of deep reflection, growth, and transformation.
In the past, I often found myself caught up in the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life, responding to circumstances rather than intentionally creating my path. But something shifted recently. I realized that to truly manifest the life I desired, I needed to take the time to create a vision for the future. Not just any vision—but one that is clear, intentional, and aligned with my deepest desires.
This journey led me to create something that has become a powerful tool in my own life: a journal focused on Direction, Clarity, and Vision for 2025.
Why is Direction, Clarity & Vision so important?
Without direction, we wander aimlessly. Without clarity, we remain uncertain. And without a vision, we lack purpose. I believe that by setting intentional goals and visualizing our desired outcomes, we unlock the power to manifest the life we truly want. But vision alone isn’t enough. We need to take practical steps toward that vision to bring it to life.
How do we do this?
Creating a vision for 2025 requires more than just wishful thinking. It requires alignment and action. Here’s how I approached it:
1. Reflect on Where You Are Right Now
Before moving forward, take a moment to reflect on where you are in your life, business, and personal growth. What are you currently experiencing, and what lessons have you learned from the past year? What do you want to leave behind as you enter 2025?
Take time to journal your thoughts, and ask yourself:
- What am I grateful for in my current journey?
- What has worked well for me in 2024?
- What have I learned that will help me as I move forward?
This reflection will provide the foundation for where you want to go.
2. Define Your Vision for 2025
What does your ideal year look like? What do you want to achieve in your career, health, relationships, or spiritual growth? When you think about the end of 2025, how do you want to feel? What do you want to have accomplished?
Here’s a simple exercise I’ve used to define my vision:
- Close your eyes and imagine yourself at the end of 2025.
- What does your life look like?
- What are you doing?
- Who are you with?
- How does it feel to be living this reality?
Write it all down. Let your vision be as detailed and expansive as possible. The more vivid the image, the more aligned you’ll be in taking steps toward it.
3. Set Intentions and Break It Down
Now that you have your vision, it’s time to break it down into smaller, actionable goals. The direction you want to go in may seem overwhelming at first, but by breaking it into chunks, you can take steady and meaningful steps.
I’ve created a system in my journal that helps me do just that:
- Set your overarching goals for 2025.
- Break these goals down into quarterly, monthly, and weekly intentions.
- Take daily actions to support your progress.
Each day, check in with your goals and see how your actions align with your vision.
4. Stay Accountable & Keep Adjusting
The path to a meaningful 2025 isn’t always linear. There will be setbacks, and your vision may evolve as you grow. The key is to stay flexible while keeping your eyes on the bigger picture.
I’ve learned the importance of accountability in this journey. Whether through journaling, working with a coach, or surrounding myself with a supportive community, keeping track of progress and adjusting when necessary has been crucial.
How can you incorporate this into your life?
I’m hosting an event called By God’s Design: Direction, Clarity & Vision for 2025 on Sunday, December 8, 2024, from 5:00 PM to 7:00 PM via Zoom. This event will provide you with the tools and guidance to align your 2025 vision with divine purpose. During the event, we’ll dive into reflective exercises and goal-setting strategies to help you take intentional steps toward creating your best year yet. It’s not just about visualizing your future—it’s about turning that vision into reality through purposeful action every day.
Are you ready to step into 2025 with direction, clarity, and vision? Let’s get started together. Register event HERE.
Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, money just slips through your fingers? Or that financial stability is always just out of reach?
If so, you're not alone. My own journey to healing my relationship with money has been marked by ups and downs, moments of clarity, and periods of frustration. Recently, a profound experience with fraud threw me into a new phase of processing and growth, leading me to draw on my Trauma of Money Certification and incorporate energy work. This journey hasn’t just been about managing money better; it’s about learning to identify and release limiting beliefs and rewrite stories that were holding me back.
When I encountered fraud, I didn’t feel anger, but I recognized it as an inconvenience and an unexpected disruption. Rather than letting it consume me, I treated it as a learning moment—a reminder to trust and not worry about money. This experience became an opportunity to pray for the person who committed the act and to send them healing energy. I saw it as a reflection of their brokenness, a sign that anyone who would steal from strangers must be dealing with deep struggles. It was the God in me that allowed me to respond this way, and without His guidance, I would be lost in these moments.
From this space of compassion and trust, “The Healed Money Movement” was born. This experience encouraged me to build a community that centers on healing, growth, and abundance, and that aligns with the understanding that our relationship with money is as much a spiritual journey as it is a financial one.
As I delved deeper into energy work and trauma recovery, I found myself asking new questions. How could I move beyond the worry and fear that had once dominated my thoughts around money? What practices could help me heal the beliefs that had been instilled in me and replace them with trust and peace? This journey wasn't about merely surviving; it was about embracing the flow of abundance and learning to let go of the grip money once had on my emotions. I recognized that healing had to begin with an understanding of how deeply I had been shaped by my fears around money.
And so, just like the fraud incident taught me to surrender and trust, I began to incorporate new practices that shifted my perspective on money. I moved from worry to wisdom, from scarcity to abundance, and from survival to surrender. Here are some of the most impactful steps I took, which you can incorporate into your own journey:
1. Identify Your Money Story:
It all starts with awareness. Reflect on your personal money story and its origins. For me, there was a lingering narrative of scarcity, fear, and struggle. Acknowledging this allowed me to begin the process of rewriting my relationship with money. Journal out your own beliefs and the emotions that come up. Ask yourself: What are my earliest memories of money? How did my family view and discuss finances?
2. Release Emotional Attachments Through Energy Work:
Our limiting beliefs often create blockages in our energy field, which can impact our emotional and physical well-being. Energy practices, like EFT tapping or visualization, can help release these beliefs. Focus on letting go of the fear, guilt, or distrust that once held you back from experiencing financial peace.
3. Set Positive Intentions for Financial Wellness:
Healing your relationship with money requires setting a vision for what you want your financial life to look like. This isn't about ignoring reality—it's about creating positive, healthy intentions. Develop affirmations that create peace in your financial world—such as “I deserve financial security” or “Money flows to me easily as I align with my purpose.”
4. Reframe Scarcity Thinking:
Scarcity isn't just about “not enough”—it’s about how we interpret what we do have. Notice when you're in survival mode and take a pause. Ask yourself, “Is this thought serving me? What’s the truth of my financial situation right now?”
5. Seek a New Emotional Anchor:
Healing is deeply connected to our emotional anchors. I found that gratitude and trust were essential to releasing past trauma. Start or end each day by acknowledging the abundance you already have, and express gratitude for it. This shifts your emotional relationship with money from fear to security and abundance.
Through these practices, I’ve witnessed transformation in my own financial life. Healing isn’t always immediate, but it’s possible for anyone willing to dig deep, challenge their beliefs, and work through their emotions. Each small step you take is a powerful investment in your peace and abundance.
If you're ready to heal your relationship with money and step into a space of financial peace, join The Healed Money Movement. Together, we'll explore practical tools, support, and community to help you break free from limiting beliefs and create a prosperous, abundant future. Click here to join us and start your healing journey today!
How could a healed relationship with money transform your life?
