What if the money story you’ve been carrying isn’t yours at all? What if the shame, fear, and silence you feel around money were planted generations ago, and you’ve simply been repeating a pattern that was never meant to serve you?
In my recent conversation with bebo mia on the Hot + Brave podcast, we went deep into this exact question. We talked about money wounds, scarcity, and what it looks like to finally heal the stories that keep us small. We also talked about how doulas, caregivers, and healers can begin to step into financial freedom without apology.
This episode is close to my heart because it reflects not just my professional work through the Healed Money Movement, but also my personal journey. If you’ve ever wondered whether you deserve more, whether you’re allowed to want abundance, or whether healing your money story is even possible… this conversation is for you.
For so many of us, money is not just about numbers. It’s about the stories we’ve been told, the wounds we’ve inherited, and the silence that has shaped how we see our own worth.
I know this because I’ve lived it. As a single mother and survivor, I carried generations of money shame and scarcity with me. I watched how it played out in my own life, undercharging for my services, doubting my worth, and shrinking whenever conversations about money came up. Those patterns weren’t mine alone. They were passed down. They were the echoes of silence in my family, the weight of systemic oppression, and the cultural belief that women and caregivers should simply give without expecting to receive.
But here’s what I’ve learned: healing your money story is not just about financial stability… it’s about liberation.
Scarcity Isn’t Personal
When I sat down with my bebo mia family on the Hot + Brave podcast, we talked about how often birth workers and caregivers feel guilty for charging sustainable fees. We carry the belief that asking for more is selfish. But this is not just a personal issue. Scarcity is not an individual failing, it’s a system designed to keep people small.
When we see scarcity for what it is, manufactured, systemic, and intentional, we can stop blaming ourselves. We can start to imagine something different.
As I shared in the conversation, healing looks like noticing those moments when fear would have taken over in the past, and responding differently now. It’s a shift in how you hold yourself, how you claim your value, and how you show up when life throws challenges your way.
The Silence Around Money
One of the biggest wounds I see is silence. Growing up, many of us were told that money is not something we talk about. That silence leaves us afraid to ask questions. It turns curiosity into fear. And when we inherit fear instead of knowledge, we inherit cycles of struggle.
Breaking that silence is one of the first steps in the Healed Money Movement. When we speak openly about money, about shame, about fear, about possibility, we create space for healing. Scarcity thrives in isolation. Abundance grows in connection.
A Doula’s Perspective
My own healing work was shaped in part by my doula training through bebo mia’s Maternal Support Practitioner (MSP) program. That program didn’t just prepare me to support families through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum… it gave me the tools to stand in my worth as a care provider.
What I love about bebo mia’s training is that it’s not just about learning comfort measures or birth physiology. It’s about looking at the bigger systems, the inequalities, and the ways birth workers can create sustainable businesses that actually support them. That holistic, justice-centered approach is part of why I’ve been able to weave money healing into my own work today.
So many doulas and educators struggle with charging for their time. Some underprice themselves until burnout pushes them out of the field. Others never get started because they can’t imagine a path that feels financially viable. This is why doula training that addresses both care and sustainability is so important.
Writing a New Story
Healing your money story doesn’t mean pretending money doesn’t matter. It means writing a new story — one where you are worthy of being resourced, where your work is valued, and where abundance is possible.
This isn’t about quick fixes or financial hacks. It’s about shifting from fear to freedom. It’s about remembering that whatever you need to truly heal is already inside you.
As I often say: “Whatever you need to truly heal, it’s all in you.” That mantra is the foundation of the Healed Money Movement.
Community Is Key
We cannot do this alone. Healing requires community. When we come together, share our stories, and challenge the systems that keep us small, we begin to step into something powerful. We begin to lead lives filled with purpose, pleasure, and peace.
That is the vision of the Healed Money Movement, not just financial freedom, but emotional, spiritual, and communal liberation. And it’s the vision that aligned me with bebo mia and their MSP program in the first place. Both are about seeing the whole person, holding space for healing, and imagining liberation together.
Your Invitation
If you’ve been wrestling with your money story, know this: you are not alone. Your wounds are real, but they are not permanent. You can write a new story. And when you do, you don’t just heal yourself — you heal generations after you.
I invite you to join me in this work. Explore the Healed Money Movement, dive into my book It’s All in Me! or the 30-Day C.A.L.M. Life Planner, and take the first step toward healing your money story.
And if you feel called to support families as a doula, look into the Maternal Support Practitioner training with bebo mia. It changed my life, and it could be the beginning of your own journey toward freedom, healing, and abundance.
Because when you heal your relationship with money, you step into freedom. And when you step into freedom, you light the way for others to do the same.
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