Hey Golden Child!
Happy December! Can you believe it’s December already? This year has flown by for me!
As I sit here on this cool December evening, reflecting on 2025, I'm struck by how dramatically my approach to life has transformed over the past few years. Two powerful frameworks have converged in my journey: the principles from Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, and the profound insights of Human Design—which I've woven into my daily existence since 2022. (Get your free Human Design Chart from my website www.jalisahardy.com.) Today, I want to share how these approaches have helped me navigate challenging health issues, make authentic decisions, and design a life that truly resonates with who I am.
When Design Thinking Meets Your Design
When I first encountered Designing Your Life, I was already deep in my Human Design journey. What fascinated me was how perfectly these systems complement each other. While Human Design reveals who you are at your core—your energy type, strategy, and authority—Burnett and Evans' framework provides the process to build a life that honors that authentic self.
The five principles from Designing Your Life became my foundation:
- Curiosity: Instead of asking "What's wrong with me?" when my blood pressure spiked, I asked "What is my body communicating?"
- Bias to action: Rather than accepting my doctor's fear-based recommendations at face value, I prototyped different approaches aligned with my Human Design profile
- Reframe problems: Viewing high blood pressure not as a crisis but as valuable feedback from my body
- Awareness: Recognizing when I was operating against my Human Design strategy (as a Manifesting Generator, I've learned to respond, not initiate)
- Radical collaboration: Seeking support from those who understand both design thinking and Human Design
The Power of Coherency
One of the most transformative concepts from Designing Your Life is the idea of coherency—the alignment between who you are, what you believe, and what you're doing.
When my doctor pressured me to take medication immediately for my blood pressure, my Human Design knowledge helped me recognize this wasn't aligned with my strategy. As someone with a Sacral authority, I knew I needed to wait for my gut response. Through journaling (a key practice from Burnett and Evans), I clarified my workview and lifeview:
- Workview: I believe work should energize me, not deplete me
- Lifeview: I honor my body's wisdom and trust its signals
When these views clashed with the medical advice I was receiving, I didn't panic. Instead, I prototyped alternative approaches: breathwork aligned with my energy type, specific movement patterns, and dietary adjustments that honored my unique biology. Within weeks, my blood pressure decreased—without medication.
This experience taught me that authentic living isn't about rejecting external advice, but about designing solutions that resonate with your true nature.
Your Year-End Reflection: Designing What's Next
As we approach the end of 2025, I invite you to reflect on your journey through the lens of life design:
The Life Design Assessment
Rate these areas of your life from 0 to FULL (like a fuel gauge):
Life Area | Current Rating | What's Working | What Needs Designing |
Health | |||
Work | |||
Play | |||
Love |
New Way to Support the Mission of The Golden Child
My journey toward authentic living has led me to create The Golden Child—a space where people discover their true design and learn to live accordingly. But to fully serve this mission, I need to address my own financial design.
This is where Jubilant Money enters the picture—a revolutionary platform that connects purpose-driven individuals with anonymous donors who believe in their mission. Through Jubilant Money, I have the opportunity to become financially free by paying off my debt with community support. So far, I've paid off one credit card and reduced the interest on another to 0% working with Jubilant Money and Women's Money Matters.
Unlike traditional crowdfunding, Jubilant Money creates a sacred container where donors give anonymously, free from expectation, and recipients receive without obligation—only gratitude. This aligns perfectly with my Human Design strategy of responding rather than initiating.
By supporting my journey, you're not just helping me pay off debt—you're investing in:
- Creating more free content about Human Design and life design
- Developing resources specifically for parents navigating their children's Human Design
- Building a community where people can live authentically without financial stress
Let’s Design Your Most Authentic Life Together (With 44% Off!)
This December, I'm offering something special—not as a Black Friday gimmick, but as a genuine invitation to begin designing your most authentic life.
For the entire month of December, you can book a Self-Discovery & Alignment Session at 44% off with code DESIGN44.
This isn't about following someone else's blueprint—it's about discovering your unique design (both Human Design and life design) and creating a path that works for you, not for societal expectations, family conditioning, or external pressures.
In our session, we'll:
- Clarify your Human Design profile and how it informs your life decisions
- Apply design thinking principles to your current challenges
- Prototype small experiments to test what truly resonates with your authentic self
- Create a compass (workview + lifeview) to guide your decisions
This is how I moved through my health challenges—not with fear, but with design, not with compliance, but with conscious choice.
As Burnett and Evans remind us: "The life that you are living is just one of many possible lives." This December, let's design the one that's most authentically yours.
With gratitude and design,
Jalisa The Golden Child
P.S. Remember—this isn't a limited-time sales tactic. The 44% discount runs all of December because authentic design takes time. True transformation happens when we move at our own rhythm, honoring our unique design. Use code DESIGN44 at checkout.
“Your voice is powerful—especially when the system tries to silence it.🎙️✨ Learn how to advocate for your birth, protect your peace, and recognize the signs of racial bias before it shows up.”
Let’s talk about what’s really happening behind the curtain in maternal healthcare—because your safety, dignity, and birth experience matter.
Racial bias in healthcare is not new, but the consequences for birthing people—especially Black mothers—are far too common and far too devastating. Even with similar income, education, or access to care, Black women are more likely to be ignored, dismissed, or misdiagnosed in medical settings.
As a doula and advocate, I believe in naming these injustices, equipping you with tools, and helping you reclaim your power in a system that wasn’t built for us.
Here You’ll Learn:
1. 💔 What Racial Bias Looks Like in Birth Spaces
- Not being believed when you express pain
- Dismissal of questions or concerns
- Lack of informed consent before procedures
- Unequal treatment based on assumptions about your background, insurance, or family structure
“They didn’t believe me when I said I was in pain—until it was too late.” This isn’t just a story. It’s a systemic issue.
2. 🛑 How to Recognize Red Flags Early
- Providers who interrupt or talk over you
- Staff who avoid answering direct questions
- Inconsistent care or vague treatment plans
- Being pressured into decisions you don’t understand
Knowing the signs allows you to respond—not just react.
3. 🛡️ Your Rights in the Delivery Room
You have the right to:
- Ask questions—and get clear answers
- Refuse procedures or ask for more information
- Request a new nurse or provider if you feel unsafe
- Have a support person or doula present at all times
Knowledge is your power. Confidence is your protection.
4. 🧘🏽♀️ How to Prepare Yourself & Your Support Team
- Birth Advocacy Scripts – Learn how to say: “I need a moment to think about this,” or “Can you explain why this is necessary?”
- Choose a culturally competent care team
- Hold a pre-birth meeting with your doula or birth partner to review your wishes, values, and rights
- Practice assertive communication in case your birth space turns challenging
5. 🤝 Why You Deserve Culturally Competent, Respectful Care
Your birth story should be one of strength—not survival. You deserve to be seen, heard, and honored throughout this sacred process.
💛 Final Thoughts:
No one should have to “prepare for racism” during childbirth—but we can prepare to rise above it with knowledge, community, and strategy. Combating racial bias begins with awareness, but real change happens when you’re equipped with tools to advocate for yourself and others.
✨ Want to Prepare with a Sisterhood That Sees You?
You don’t have to do this alone. Come be part of a powerful, healing space created just for you.
🤎 Join the Empowered Birth Tribe on Meetup — a free monthly support group for melanated mamas to connect, share, and rise together.
Let’s grow in community, advocate with confidence, and birth in power.
Hey Golden Child!
As we navigate life's twists and turns, it's essential to understand the intricacies of our emotions and their impact on our well-being. Today, I want to share my personal journey with high blood pressure and how I've come to realize the profound connection between emotions and physical health. By exploring the emotions wheel, emotions in our organs, emotions vs. feelings, and emotional and non-emotional energy types in Human Design, I've gained a deeper understanding of the root of all emotions: fear and love.
My Journey with High Blood Pressure
Over the past five months, I've been working to manage high blood pressure naturally, despite the initial skepticism from my doctor. I've been using supplements like magnesium, beet root, celery seed extract, and black seed oil, in addition to regular workouts, hypnotherapy, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)/Tapping. While natural remedies take time to show their effects, I've been committed to this journey, even in the face of uncertainty.
One of the most significant breakthroughs came during a tapping meditation, where I learned from Louise Hay that an underlying cause of high blood pressure is "longstanding emotional problems not solved." This realization sparked a deep emotional release, as I confronted unresolved experiences from my past and present. I had been unwilling to accept my reality, feeling like I was doing everything "right" yet still facing this challenge. However, I've come to understand that healing is not a linear process, and just because we have healthy habits, it doesn't mean we'll always have the desired outcomes.
The Emotions Wheel and Understanding Emotions
The emotions wheel is a powerful tool for understanding the interconnectedness of our emotions. By recognizing the different emotions and their relationships, we can begin to address the root causes of our emotional pain. I've come to realize that emotions are energy in motion, and by acknowledging and releasing them, we can restore balance to our bodies and minds.
Emotions in Our Organs
In traditional Chinese medicine, each organ is associated with specific emotions. For example, the heart is linked to joy and love, while the liver is connected to anger and frustration. By understanding these connections, we can better navigate our emotional experiences and address any imbalances in our bodies.
Emotions vs. Feelings
Emotions and feelings are often used interchangeably, but they have distinct meanings. Emotions are intense, short-term experiences, while feelings are longer-term, more subtle sensations. By recognizing the difference, we can better navigate our emotional landscapes and respond to challenging situations.
Emotional and Non-Emotional Energy Types in Human Design
In Human Design, there are two primary energy types: emotional and non-emotional. Emotional energy types are deeply connected to their emotions because they are internally generated, while non-emotional energy types are more detached because they are heavily influenced by the emotions of those around them. By understanding our energy type, we can better navigate our emotional experiences and respond to challenging situations. If you're interested in learning whether you're an emotional or non-emotional energy type, go to my website www.jalisahardy.com to get your Human Design Chart for free.
The Root of All Emotions: Fear and Love
At the core of all emotions lies fear and love. Fear is the root of many negative emotions, while love is the foundation of positive emotions. By acknowledging and addressing our deep-seated fears and cultivating love and compassion, we can transform our emotional experiences and restore balance to our bodies and minds.
Practical Tips for Emotional Healing
- Practice self-awareness: Recognize your emotions and their impact on your body and mind.
- Use energetic practices: Engage in practices like meditation, yoga, or sound healing to shift your energy and perspective.
- Address emotional blockages: Use techniques like EFT/Tapping or journaling to release emotional pain and restore balance.
- Cultivate love and compassion: Focus on cultivating love and compassion for yourself and others, and acknowledge the interconnectedness of all emotions.
As I continue on my journey with high blood pressure, I'm reminded that healing is not just about physical health, but also about emotional well-being. By understanding the intricacies of emotions and their impact on our bodies, we can take the first steps towards transformative healing. Suppose you're ready to dive deeper into your emotional journey and explore the connections between emotions and physical health. In that case, I invite you to book a Self-Discovery & Alignment Call with me. Together, we can explore your unique challenges and empower you to transform them into stepping stones toward your best self.
Visit this link to schedule your session: Self-Discovery & Alignment Call and use the code DISCOVER22 to receive 22% off your session.
Wishing you resilience, growth, and emotional healing as you navigate your journey!
🧘🏽♀️ How are you really preparing for birth?
It’s one thing to pack a hospital bag or attend a birthing class—but preparing your spirit is something else entirely. Birth is a sacred rite of passage. It requires more than physical readiness; it asks you to go inward, to connect with your power, and to release fear so you can welcome your baby from a place of peace, strength, and alignment.
As a doula, I support clients in nurturing their whole selves—body, mind, and soul—because you’re not just birthing a baby… you’re birthing a new you.
1. How to Spiritually Ground Before Labor
Here are gentle but powerful ways to connect to your core:
- Daily Quiet Time – Begin or end your day with a few minutes of silence. Journal, pray, or sit in gratitude. Ask, “What does my body need today?”
- Rooting Practices – Walk barefoot on the earth, sit near trees, or place your hands over your womb and breathe deeply.
- Energy Clearing – Smudge your space with sage or palo santo, use essential oils like lavender or frankincense, or take a cleansing bath with sea salt.
2. Affirmations + Meditations I Share with My Clients
Simple affirmations spoken daily can shift your mindset and energy:
- “My body was made for this.”
- “I release fear and trust the process.”
- “My baby and I are working together in harmony.”
✨ Try this 5-minute womb connection meditation:
Sit comfortably, close your eyes, place your hands on your belly, and repeat: “I am safe. I am strong. I am ready.” Visualize golden light surrounding you and your baby.
Sit comfortably, close your eyes, place your hands on your belly, and repeat: “I am safe. I am strong. I am ready.” Visualize golden light surrounding you and your baby.
3. What to Do When Fear or Anxiety Shows Up
Fear is a natural part of this journey, but it doesn’t have to control you. Here’s how to move through it:
- Name It – Say what you're feeling out loud or journal it. Naming the fear reduces its power.
- Talk to Your Baby – Speak words of love and confidence. This builds trust and connection.
- Create a Ritual – Light a candle, play music, or say a prayer whenever anxiety rises. This signals your brain that you're safe and supported
4. Spiritual Birth Prep Ideas
- Create a birth altar with meaningful objects: crystals, scripture cards, ultrasound photos, or letters to your baby.
- Write a birth vision prayer or letter declaring how you want to feel during birth.
- Set up a “labor playlist” with songs that make you feel empowered, relaxed, or joyful
💛 Final Thoughts
Birth is more than a medical event—it’s a spiritual transformation. When you take time to prepare your spirit, you birth with more clarity, confidence, and connection.
Whether this is your first baby or your fourth, you deserve to feel deeply supported, emotionally grounded, and spiritually aligned.
And if you're ready for real support, let’s talk about how I can walk this journey with you as your doula. I offer two ways to connect:
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Your birth, your body, your power. Let’s make it sacred, supported, and stress-free.
What if the money story you’ve been carrying isn’t yours at all? What if the shame, fear, and silence you feel around money were planted generations ago, and you’ve simply been repeating a pattern that was never meant to serve you?
In my recent conversation with bebo mia on the Hot + Brave podcast, we went deep into this exact question. We talked about money wounds, scarcity, and what it looks like to finally heal the stories that keep us small. We also talked about how doulas, caregivers, and healers can begin to step into financial freedom without apology.
This episode is close to my heart because it reflects not just my professional work through the Healed Money Movement, but also my personal journey. If you’ve ever wondered whether you deserve more, whether you’re allowed to want abundance, or whether healing your money story is even possible… this conversation is for you.
For so many of us, money is not just about numbers. It’s about the stories we’ve been told, the wounds we’ve inherited, and the silence that has shaped how we see our own worth.
I know this because I’ve lived it. As a single mother and survivor, I carried generations of money shame and scarcity with me. I watched how it played out in my own life, undercharging for my services, doubting my worth, and shrinking whenever conversations about money came up. Those patterns weren’t mine alone. They were passed down. They were the echoes of silence in my family, the weight of systemic oppression, and the cultural belief that women and caregivers should simply give without expecting to receive.
But here’s what I’ve learned: healing your money story is not just about financial stability… it’s about liberation.
Scarcity Isn’t Personal
When I sat down with my bebo mia family on the Hot + Brave podcast, we talked about how often birth workers and caregivers feel guilty for charging sustainable fees. We carry the belief that asking for more is selfish. But this is not just a personal issue. Scarcity is not an individual failing, it’s a system designed to keep people small.
When we see scarcity for what it is, manufactured, systemic, and intentional, we can stop blaming ourselves. We can start to imagine something different.
As I shared in the conversation, healing looks like noticing those moments when fear would have taken over in the past, and responding differently now. It’s a shift in how you hold yourself, how you claim your value, and how you show up when life throws challenges your way.
The Silence Around Money
One of the biggest wounds I see is silence. Growing up, many of us were told that money is not something we talk about. That silence leaves us afraid to ask questions. It turns curiosity into fear. And when we inherit fear instead of knowledge, we inherit cycles of struggle.
Breaking that silence is one of the first steps in the Healed Money Movement. When we speak openly about money, about shame, about fear, about possibility, we create space for healing. Scarcity thrives in isolation. Abundance grows in connection.
A Doula’s Perspective
My own healing work was shaped in part by my doula training through bebo mia’s Maternal Support Practitioner (MSP) program. That program didn’t just prepare me to support families through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum… it gave me the tools to stand in my worth as a care provider.
What I love about bebo mia’s training is that it’s not just about learning comfort measures or birth physiology. It’s about looking at the bigger systems, the inequalities, and the ways birth workers can create sustainable businesses that actually support them. That holistic, justice-centered approach is part of why I’ve been able to weave money healing into my own work today.
So many doulas and educators struggle with charging for their time. Some underprice themselves until burnout pushes them out of the field. Others never get started because they can’t imagine a path that feels financially viable. This is why doula training that addresses both care and sustainability is so important.
Writing a New Story
Healing your money story doesn’t mean pretending money doesn’t matter. It means writing a new story — one where you are worthy of being resourced, where your work is valued, and where abundance is possible.
This isn’t about quick fixes or financial hacks. It’s about shifting from fear to freedom. It’s about remembering that whatever you need to truly heal is already inside you.
As I often say: “Whatever you need to truly heal, it’s all in you.” That mantra is the foundation of the Healed Money Movement.
Community Is Key
We cannot do this alone. Healing requires community. When we come together, share our stories, and challenge the systems that keep us small, we begin to step into something powerful. We begin to lead lives filled with purpose, pleasure, and peace.
That is the vision of the Healed Money Movement, not just financial freedom, but emotional, spiritual, and communal liberation. And it’s the vision that aligned me with bebo mia and their MSP program in the first place. Both are about seeing the whole person, holding space for healing, and imagining liberation together.
Your Invitation
If you’ve been wrestling with your money story, know this: you are not alone. Your wounds are real, but they are not permanent. You can write a new story. And when you do, you don’t just heal yourself — you heal generations after you.
I invite you to join me in this work. Explore the Healed Money Movement, dive into my book It’s All in Me! or the 30-Day C.A.L.M. Life Planner, and take the first step toward healing your money story.
And if you feel called to support families as a doula, look into the Maternal Support Practitioner training with bebo mia. It changed my life, and it could be the beginning of your own journey toward freedom, healing, and abundance.
Because when you heal your relationship with money, you step into freedom. And when you step into freedom, you light the way for others to do the same.
